It's Not About the Reaction - It's About Your Triggers
6 modules | 50 lessons | Reflection Exercises | Online Course

When our child expresses big emotions, reacts unpredictably, or behaves in challenging ways — especially in public spaces — it often activates far more in us than the present moment. Their reactions reflect our own conditioning: the beliefs, fears, and automatic behaviors shaped by our childhood and reinforced by the social norms we grew up with. How we respond in these moments is not just about managing the child; it is a direct expression of our learned emotional patterns.

How we handle a tantrum is rarely about the child alone. It is a reflection of the emotional scripts we internalized growing up, both within our family system and through broader societal expectations. Without awareness, we unconsciously repeat these inherited patterns, passing them from one generation to the next.

But when we begin to recognize that our triggers, discomfort, and instinctive responses stem from old conditioning — rather than the child’s behavior itself — we open the door to more conscious, regulated, and respectful parenting.

This course challenges many common assumptions about children’s behavior, offering a science-based understanding of the developing brain and nervous system. You’ll gain insight into how a child’s emotional outbursts are natural, biologically grounded processes rather than misbehavior — and how a parent’s nervous system, triggers, and past experiences profoundly shape the interaction.

By becoming aware of your own automatic reactions, you build the foundation for mutual learning between parent and child. Through conscious parenting practices, we explore how to navigate public tantrums with regulation instead of reactivity, connection instead of control, and guidance instead of punishment.

The way you respond to your child helps shape their inner world, influencing who they become as an adult and the skills they develop.

Ultimately, this course empowers parents to break inherited patterns, respond with clarity and compassion, and create emotionally safe relationships — even in the most challenging public moments. 

MODULE 1 — Understanding Early Emotional Development

The Science of Tantrums

Child Brain Development

The Development of Emotional Regulation in Childhood

Co-Regulation: The Foundation of Self-Regulation

The Parental Role in Developing Emotional Regulation

Emotional Regulation Skills

MODULE 2 — The Parent's Inner Work

When Your Child’s Distress Activates Your Nervous System—and Your Past

Where These Responses Come From—and What They Reveal

Early Childhood Conditioning

Identify Your Triggers

Triggers Related to Misinterpreting the Child’s Behavior

Disputed Belief: My Child’s Behavior Justifies My Reaction

Understand Your Nervous System Responses

Childhood Experiences Shape Parenting Reactions

A Generational Swing in How Emotions Are Handled

How Your Responses Shape Your Child’s Inner World—and Their Future Adulthood

MODULE 3 — Navigating Tantrums

MODULE 4 — Repair and Reflection

MODULE 5 — Course Summary

MODULE 6 — Reflective exercises

What You Will Gain

• Deep self-awareness around your triggers and patterns

• Confidence in handling public meltdowns without shame or panic

• A clear understanding of child brain & nervous system development

• Tools for self-regulation and co-regulation

• New emotional scripts that support connection

• The ability to break generational patterns and respond with compassion